Seven Simple Ways to Make Your Life Together Better September 22, 2022
The pandemic changed the way couples live together. Most of the time, people say
they are feeling stressed. New studies are showing how things can work out for the better.
A lot of folks said that life together has improved. The improvement was that they
learned to talk and act in new ways.
Experts say the following are some ways to improve life together.
Keep Track of the Good Stuff
What works? Examples include compliments, goodbye kisses, buying flowers,
cooking meals, and cleaning up. Positive words and actions work much better than negative ones.
Anger takes things downhill (xuống dốc /da n ʊ h ˈ l/)
ɪ . Laughing, smiling, touching,
and saying nice things make disagreements easier to get past. They may not solve
every problem but may help couples get through hard times.
Being generous also is good. An expert said there is a virtue (ưu điểm /v .t ɜː u ʃ ː/)
in “giving good things to one’s spouse freely and abundantly.” Examples include
making coffee, showing affection (tình cảm, sự yêu mến /ə fek. ˈ ʃən/), and forgiving. Hold Hands
Holding hands is good. Why? Touching is a good way to connect. Hand-holding
also lowers stress. Research shows that holding hands takes some stress away from
the person in pain. When partners take our hand, they take some of the emotional burdens.
Think about how it feels to touch your partner. Hold hands when you head out the
door (đi ra ngoài) or watch television. Spend hand-holding time talking about
things that are on your mind. It may be things like money, kids, or work. Read to Each Other
Why? People grow closer when they share thoughts and ideas. Reading aloud is a
way to experience something new together. You will enjoy reading to someone and having them read to you.
Each partner picks a favorite story. Do not only listen to the words. Take note of
your partner’s voice. Talk about what you read and why you chose it.
Accept the Small Problems
Write down one or two of your partner’s annoying habits. They may be small
things like not paying bills or dropping clothes on the floor. Talk about those
things, but do not be critical. Try to find reasons why they happen. It could be your partner had a bad day at work.
Much of the time, such conflicts are not solved. “Acceptance therapy” helps people
make changes on their own. Even if change does not take place, acceptance may
bring a couple closer together. Share Your Perfect Day
Think about your best day. Share the details with your partner. Include your likes,
dislikes, hopes, and dreams. Try to plan a version of a perfect day together.
These questions and details help people get to know each other better. Talking
about your perfect day is a way of telling your partner about yourself. It is a way to
make a deeper connection between you.
Feel Each Other’s Heartbeat
Eye contact and touch create feelings of closeness. Things get better when partners
hug, hold hands or kiss the other. Eye contact and touch are powerful ways of
making a deeper connection with your partner.
Take a few minutes with your partner in a quiet space. Now follow these steps: Stand and face each other.
Each of you should place your right hand on the other’s chest, over the heart.
Bring your left hand to your chest and cover your partner’s hand.
Spend the next minute looking into each other’s eyes as your hands rest on each other’s hearts and hands.
Try not to giggle (cười rúc rích, cười khúc khích / .
ɡɪɡ əl/) or speak. Be mindful
(lưu tâm, quan tâm) of each other’s breathing. Be present and quiet together. After
a minute, take a breath. Discuss how it felt to you.
Practice Gratitude (lòng biết ơn /ɡræt. .t ɪ u
ʃ ːd/) Together
Write down three things about your partner for which you feel grateful. Take a
moment to read what you wrote about each other. Are you surprised by your
partner’s feelings? Talk about these moments and how they make you feel more connected to each other.
Showing gratitude is a common way to boost happiness. It helps us get better sleep
and can even sometimes reduce illness. Gratitude exercises also can make us feel
closer to our romantic partners.
(Nguồn: The Times in Plain English, Seven Simple Ways to Make Your Life Together Better)